Should I Break Up With My Partner?

You don't search this when things are good. The question was never whether the relationship is perfect — none are. It's whether the gap between what you have and what you need is one effort can close, or one you've been closing alone.

Questions to ask yourself

• Are you unhappy with them, or with who you become around them?
• Have you actually told them the truth, or have you been hinting and hoping?
• Would you want this exact relationship for someone you love?
• Are you staying for them, for the memory of them, or for fear of the empty apartment?
• If nothing changed for a year, could you live with that?

The signs you already decided

The body knows before the mind admits it: the relief when plans cancel, the rehearsed conversations, the way you've started narrating your life to someone who isn't them. Resentment that no longer flares but simply sits is its own answer.

What people get wrong

People wait for a reason big enough to justify leaving, as if 'I'm not happy and I've tried' isn't enough. You don't need a villain to need an exit.

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